Kjærlighet skaper forløsning av det meste som ligger som smertefulle blokkeringer inni oss.
Og når vi elsker oss selv, slik vi faktisk er og ikke forsøker å være sånn som vi tror vi må være for at andre skal elske oss – finner vi kilden til vekst, visdom, aksept, trygghet, forståelse, glede, harmoni og kjærlighet.
Som fugler som flyr med vinden er også kjærlighet en kraft som i sin form er så egenrådig og så selvstendig at den kun kan pleies gjennom nøye observasjon og undring. Love your self. ❤
The affiliation we have with other people may be the one that touches and concerns us the most. Perhaps especially in the relationship we have with those closest to us, but also in other but equally important relationships.
Is the connection good, we often feel listened to, accepted, respected and loved. If the connection is less good, it’s almost always a question if we’re just that- Loved.
The desire to have good and trusting relationships with other people lies so strongly within the human nature, that I want to state that I think it may be the most important emotional need to most people. In any case, most I have talked to.
Some people spend their entire lives trying to be loved and accepted by others. And some of them tend to often get hurt. The feeling of failure is often a central feeling when relationships doesn’t playout smoothly. In particular this is often the case for people who have played the role of «the black sheep», «the invisible», the «psychologist», the «victim», «the bad one», «the good», the «helper», «good boy / girl» In the upbringing.
There are countless roles that are «assigned» to us when we grow up. And surely more than I’ve come up with here.
These roles we are assigned to are hard to get rid of, and we bring them with us into our lives as adults. And we keep on doing the same over and over again. For what we really learned was to play the same role in any close and intimate relationship. The patterns are repeated in circle after circle.
Many people eventually come to the realization that they have to detach themselves from reinforced patterns and roles that no longer work for them. In this process, many people now feel so strongly that they must give up old patterns. They try something new.
By playing the role of «self» – more and more people are beginning to see that love for themselves is the answer. By loving oneself, with the cards they have been dealt through life. Seeing whp they are. With all their mistakes and shortcomings, strengths and weaknesses. With all their luggage or lack strengths . With their differences and distinctive features. With their good and bad days – they can start to get a good connection with themselves. Thus can they start looking at themselves with love, and they look at their surroundings with brand new eyes.
Love creates healing for the blockages that lies within us. For the uncontious need to repeat unhealthy patterns.
And when we love ourselves, as we actually are, and do not try to be like we think we must be for others to love us – we find the source of growth, wisdom, acceptance, security, understanding, joy, harmony and love.
Like birds flying with the wind, love is also a force that in its form is so self-sufficient and so independent that it can only be cared for through careful observation and wonder.
Love your self. ❤